Waiting, Worth, and the Work of God

Okay y’all, hear me out…sometimes  God puts people in your path just to teach you patience. Or sometimes just to show you what not to chase. 

Case in point: the man who treats you like trash. Let’s be real ...he’s blind. Blind to your value, blind to the role he could play in a life that’s built on purpose, not convenience. He’s not worth your energy. Period.

Now, take a breath with me. You. You are the treasure here. Proverbs 31:10...

"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies..."

Don’t just skim past it. Think about it. Your worth isn’t measured by how fast someone claims it, how loudly they chase it, or how many facebook likes your relationship might get. Virtue is patience, integrity, and wisdom wrapped in self-respect. Virtue is alignment with God’s design... It’s preparation, not desperation.

Proverbs 18:22: That’s your mantra while you wait:

"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD."

Translation: don’t chase. Let God orchestrate it. You are the pearl. The right man will see it. He will respect it. He will pursue it with intention, not impulse. And if he doesn’t? Keep walking. Keep building. Keep aligning.

Waiting isn’t easy. I know. It tests your patience. Makes you question your timing. Makes your friends roll their eyes. But here’s the secret: waiting is active, not passive. It’s the work of cultivating yourself while trusting God to bring the right person when the timing is right.

This isn’t about perfection. This is about alignment. Ephesians 5:25 says Husbands, love your wives like Christ loved the church. If a man can’t even aim for that. Don’t compromise your standard.

The pearl doesn’t chase the tide. It waits. It develops its luster. It trusts that the waters will deliver the right hands at the right time. And in the meantime? Keep growing. Keep discerning. Keep being the woman God prepared you to be.

Remember: your worth isn’t something to negotiate. Your peace isn’t something to surrender. And your patience? That’s your power.