Men Are Expected to Perform on Contact

Let’s name the script society hands to men:

• Be the breadwinner.

• Pay for everything.

• Spend $500 on a first date just to “show intent.”

• Provide for children that aren’t yours on the first night you meet their mother.

• Sponsor her lifestyle before you even know her last name.

This isn’t dating.
This is procurement.

That is poor-mindset economics:
Expecting resources without relationship.
Expecting provision without partnership.
Expecting loyalty without reciprocity.

And even women who aren’t financially struggling get sucked into that belief system — because the culture rewards the illusion of being “chased,” “courted,” “spoiled,” and “maintained” by men who don’t know them.

But that’s not romance.
That’s dependency dressed as desirability.

A grown woman should be able to carry her own life before expecting anyone else to invest in it.